1. Was it planned?
Does it really matter at this point?? If she is telling you she is expecting she doesn't want to be interrogated on the ins and outs of how it came about, she wants you to be excited so just say 'Congratulations' and be happy for her!
2. I think you're having a...
There are no studies to prove that X means you are having a girl or Y means you are definitely having a boy! Every pregnancy is different and each women carries their baby differently. If the couple haven't found out the gender it is because they want it to be a surprise not that they want people constantly guessing and annoying them!
3. Are you going to breastfeed?
This is a very personal question. Each person's stance on it differs, even if they intend on breastfeeding it might not be feasible so don't add pressure or expectation on to an already stressed out Mama-to-be!
4. How long are you taking for maternity leave or will you be going back to work at all?
Again this is an extremely personal question and to be honest it is none of your business what she chooses to do when baby comes! She may not know herself so wait until she gives you this information.
5. You can't eat or drink that, can you?!
I drank coffee every so often during my pregnancy and it was totally fine. Never tell a pregnant woman what she can and can’t eat. The list of foods to eat and avoid is something your Doctor/Midwife goes over with you, they don't need to be lectured or judged by you!
6. How many kids do you want?
Jeez, let me have this one before I go thinking about the next one!!
7. You look like you are ready to pop
You are pretty much saying, wow, you look HUGE or god, you look unhappy! Keep your comments to yourself thanks!
What you should say....3 words...
YOU LOOK GREAT!